How to start a conversation: a first message people reply to
Tell the AI what you know about the person – it picks up on the details and suggests three first messages that end with an open question. No generic "hi, how are you".
Hi! «loves mountains» caught my eye – what got you into it?
the reply will appear here…Why it works: Builds on a detail about the person and ends with a question that is easy to answer.
Prompt sent to the chat: «Help me start a conversation. Where: a dating site. To: a woman. What I know about the person: loves mountains, has a dog. Tone: light. Suggest 3 first messages that build on these details and end with an open question. No generic "hi, how are you", no compliments on looks, no flirting or pick-up tricks.»
Free on the Starter plan. In the chat you can send a screenshot of the profile, and the AI will find something to pick up on.
Write a first messageHow to keep the conversation going: open questions
A closed question gets a "yes" or "no", and the conversation stalls. An open question invites a story.
What to write on a dating site: picking up on the profile
Every profile has two or three details the person would enjoy talking about. Find them, and the first message is almost ready.
I brew coffee in a cezve1. Learning Spanish2. Looking for company for weekend bike rides3.
- 1"Is coffee in a cezve a matter of principle? Share your secret"
- 2"Spanish for travel or for the soul?"
- 3"Bike rides – around the city or out of town?"
How to start a conversation with a woman or a man
The rules are almost the same: interest in the person, one specific detail, and a question that is nice to answer. Only the context changes.
With a woman
Start a first message with her interests, not her looks. One question, not three in a row. Don’t write at night and don’t rush her to reply.
With a man
You can start the same way: a detail from his profile or shared context, and an open question. A light joke about a shared interest breaks the ice.
With a new colleague
In a work chat, introduce yourself, remind them which team you are on, and ask one question about the work or how things are done here. Use the polite form of address until they suggest otherwise.
No pick-up tricks or manipulation: respect and real interest in the person work better than any technique.
First message – free
Starter – 0 ₽
30 units of energy. First messages, replies and questions to keep a conversation going are text requests, so they are included in the free plan. If you chat a lot, there is Lite for ₽690 (150 energy) and Basic for ₽990 (200 energy).
Frequently asked questions
How do I start a conversation with a woman?
Find one detail in her profile or in the shared context and ask an open question about it. A short message with a question works better than a long letter or compliments on looks.
How do I start a conversation with a man?
The same way: pick up on a hobby, a place or a shared experience and ask about it. If you met in person, mention where – it makes it easier to continue the conversation.
What should I write in a first message on a dating site?
Ask about something she wrote about herself: a hobby, a trip, a book. Put those details into the field "What you know about the person" – the AI will suggest three options.
How do I start a conversation if I don’t know what to talk about?
Start with shared context: where you crossed paths, mutual friends, a common interest. Open questions – "how", "what", "why" rather than "yes or no" – carry the conversation from there.
Will the AI teach pick-up tricks?
No. It helps you start an honest conversation: build on the person’s interests and ask a good question. We don’t use manipulation or flirting with a hidden meaning in requests.
Is it free?
Yes. Text requests are included in the Starter plan: 30 units of energy at no charge.